Times Change & Things Change

“Times change and things change”.  We are all familiar with this phrase.  While the phrase has a negative connotation, change, in reality, can be good or bad, depending on it’s consequence.

Unfortunately, or fortunately, there have been major changes in the family structure during the past several years.  These changes affect everyone in the family, but I am most concerned about the children and the affect it has for them.  With the need for two paychecks, Mom and Dad must both work.  This greatly impacts how often a child can spend time with a parent.  When time can not be plentiful, then it should of great quality.  Time should be set aside for interaction with each child, and the interaction should be meaningful, not just homework. 

Child care should receive as much, or more, consideration as you give when buying a car or home.  After all, your child will spend a considerable amount of time with the care giver.  Make sure the care giver shares your values.  Child care should consist of free play, that is designed by the care giver to enhance childhood development. Only small portions of the day should be spent in chairs.  If it looks like school, it’s not appropriate.

Older children need to have a sense that you know their friends and what their activities are.  Keep the lines of communication open.  Ask questions in a friendly manner.  Make a place in your home to accommodate your child’s friends.  It should be comfortable for children their age.  Provide a stocked refrigerator and pantry with foods the age group would like.  Keep things around the house the age group would be interested in doing, to occupy their time. Pop in and interact every once in a while, but do not be intrusive.  Make friends with parents of your child’s buddies,  and keep in touch with them through text, phone calls or e-mail.  Invite them to be your facebook friend.

Making up for time away from your child does not have to be overwhelming, just well thought out.  Remember, doing chores together is good quality time.  Cooking together is an excellent way to interact and talk about the day.  Even dusting can be fun… if you whistle while you work “together”.